HI! I’m Somer, a mom who, even after 5 years of being out, is coping with the transition from the high stress, fast tempo of being a helicopter pilot in the Marine Corps to a quiet stay at home life with young kids. Life for me these days is a constant inner monologue as I try to find balance between work and home, while also grappling with my purpose and value as I make that transition from a successful military career to a role that while still powerfully important, doesn’t have the rigid discipline and rigorous purpose that the Marines afforded.
I have been happily married for 8 years now and my husband and I have three beautiful children: 5, 3 and a 19 month old. After having our second child, we moved from the west coast to the east coast and he deployed almost immediately. Being prior military myself, I knew what he was about to head off and do and I needed a distraction to keep myself busy; I began pursuing a dream to own a small business that I wouldn’t have otherwise had the courage to pursue. Becoming an entrepreneur has also played a pivotal role in my struggle with not being in the service anymore, being a single parent while he is away and wondering how I am contributing to our family’s success and “the world.”
Over this past summer I was led to homeschool my oldest, who was about to enter into Kindergarten. I’m nuts, I know it. Most people that know me know that already. Some days I still struggle with the decision: homeschooling vs. public education. I want to do what is best for my children and I am continually questioning the decision, especially on those days where time seems exceptionally absent and my to do list feels enormously long. I’m not certain that I’ll stick with it, but even if I don’t, I surround myself with women and moms who will support my decisions for what is best for my family and for me. As busy working moms, we all have a personal journey and there are no right or wrong answers. Just a common bond forged in the love we have for our children.
I am passionate about cooking from scratch. I’ve recently been introduced to Whole30. I’ve never felt better and I know what I am giving to my children at each and every meal. I’m obsessed with essential oils. Give me a roller bottle of Stress Away and I’ll conquer the world, or at least get dinner prepared while the hurricanes that are my three children blow through the living room.
I don’t have it all together, but I work hard to find balance between my family, my passions and my businesses, taking it one day at a time. Some days are more difficult than others as I continue to adjust to being a SAHM after serving alongside some of the Nation’s finest men and women. There isn’t a day that goes by that I am not looking up to the sky. This season of my life is about embracing who I am and where I am, today. I’m grateful for my life, my love and the opportunities I see before me. As a mother, I want nothing more than for my children to believe they are capable of anything and everything, and that whatever path they choose, they’ll find purpose, grace, self-love and maybe even a little grit.